tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111368745091158881.post3378893077108781659..comments2019-11-23T13:10:54.304+00:00Comments on Lucy May: 11Dec07 - Holly MayNeilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00230725501434761599noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111368745091158881.post-4788355548670214712007-12-17T12:13:00.000+00:002007-12-17T12:13:00.000+00:00Such a poignant reminder that all wonderful and be...Such a poignant reminder that all wonderful and beautiful gifts come at a price, as the Holland poem says you have to accept the loss in order to fully appreciate the beauty of the unexpected gift you've been given although I am sure it is such a difficult thing to accept. I really think that you've also been such a gift to Lucy as well as her to you. All her achievements were achieved in your loving care, and I am filled with such joy to see all of you together facing the difficulties as a family. <BR/>All my love<BR/>cousin Emma<BR/>xXxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111368745091158881.post-35015177363320243002007-12-12T22:07:00.000+00:002007-12-12T22:07:00.000+00:00Your comments always give me a lot to think about,...Your comments always give me a lot to think about, not only about your life but it also makes me look at my own. I once heard someone say that it is how we deal with difficulties that makes us who we are and that when facing these difficulties we are given a chance to make something better. It is hard to apply but your life does illustrate exactly what they mean.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111368745091158881.post-16182765854170101962007-12-12T20:29:00.000+00:002007-12-12T20:29:00.000+00:00Yes Lucy is a very special star and we're so glad ...Yes Lucy is a very special star and we're so glad she's part of our family. I feel very proud that you've both been able to face up to the hurts & trauma of the past 3years and accept and love Lucy unreservedly and give her the best home and care she could have.<BR/><BR/>Some sort of memorial for Holly is a lovely idea.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9111368745091158881.post-88459738214728123662007-12-12T08:51:00.000+00:002007-12-12T08:51:00.000+00:00This is something that we have discussed amongst m...This is something that we have discussed amongst my liver families and it's something I wanted to share with you. I think I have talked to Dawn about this before but it never hurts to remind ourselves of it. I think your post today is honest and from the heart... and beautiful. Thank you...<BR/><BR/>WELCOME TO HOLLAND<BR/>by<BR/>Emily Perl Kingsley.<BR/><BR/>c1987 by Emily Perl Kingsley. All rights reserved<BR/><BR/>I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability - to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this......<BR/><BR/>When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.<BR/><BR/>After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."<BR/><BR/>"Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."<BR/><BR/>But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.<BR/><BR/>The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.<BR/><BR/>So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.<BR/><BR/>It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around.... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills....and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.<BR/><BR/>But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned." <BR/><BR/>And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away... because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss.<BR/><BR/>But... if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things ... about Holland.fairenuffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13417056285199589032noreply@blogger.com